Just recently I went to church and hear this speech about love. All of these things I’m about to say just seem cliche. But this is the fact that we must understand. My first question: How do you define love? How do we characterise it?
Love is always followed by attention. We can’t just love someone without feeling the urge to know what’s his/her day, or what important updates he/she has. We can’t just claim we love our parents without giving them a call, asking them what’re they doing and tell them about your life.
Love is always followed by discipline. We can’t just abandon our kids when they are doing something wrong, even though we don’t want them to ‘suffer’ when they are being punished. They need to be punished when they do something wrong, because we want to build their character for good. Do we want to create a monster?
When it comes to love, we always learn something new. No stopping rule. Love never fails, Bible says (1 Corinthians 13:8). Yes! No something new means boring, monotone life. We will not fully enjoy our whereabouts as human. Love is like a almost everywhere continuous function. It is discontinuous, but only countably many. Sometimes it’s not as smooth as we wish, sometimes there’s anger and disappointment, but there should be much more love than those negative feelings. If you let your emotion controls you, then love is nowhere to be found.
Who are eligible and able to be as perfect as love itself? We can’t be, but I think we can be as close as we can.
How to love? How’s love measured? It has dimension: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Yes, again from the Bible (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). We are doing the so-called love if we do all of those things. But we fail so many times. We only do it partially.
The most important thing, and yet the hardest thing to do. Love is always followed by forgiveness. Have you forgiven others today?
Maybe the next question is: I say all such good things about love. I seem to be the wisest man ever alive. Am I the expert in love?
The answer is NO. I’m no expert. In fact, we are all no expert. We can love simply because we are loved by the Love itself. If it were no Love, how could we know what’s love?
I just want to share my random thought with you guys. Okay, not that random. Actually I have planned to write about this since I feel so moved when hearing the speech. Hahahaha. Good night!